Engagement Customs and Taboos: Remembering for a Smooth and Auspicious Celebration
To ensure a joyous and harmonious atmosphere for both families and to facilitate the smooth progress of the wedding proceedings, regardless of one's religious beliefs, it is advisable to adhere to these customs out of politeness and respect. Today, Yalishih has compiled common engagement customs and taboos for your reference.
Taboos 1 :
Number of Participants: During the engagement ceremony, the number of male participants receiving gifts is generally in even numbers, such as 6, 10, or 12. If there are many friends and family members, numbers like 16, 22, or 26 are also acceptable.
Taboos 2 :
Avoidance of Numbers: In terms of numbers, it is advisable to avoid 4, 7, 13, 37, and 69, as these numbers are considered more negative and unlucky.
Taboos 3 :
Returning Pork Gifts: When the bride receives pork as part of the engagement gifts, she must return the bony portions to the groom's side. This is based on the saying, "Eat your meat, but don't gnaw on your bones."
Taboos 4 :
Avoiding Engagement Cake: The bride should refrain from eating the engagement cake sent by the groom's side, as it is believed that doing so might diminish her happiness.
Taboos 5 :
Proper Rituals: During ancestral worship, if the bride accidentally misplaces the incense, she should avoid reinserting it, as it may symbolize a "remarriage." When sitting on a high chair, the bride should settle into a position without moving around to prevent any unintended symbolism related to marriage.
Taboos 6 :
Ring Exchange: When exchanging rings, it is considered inappropriate to slide the ring directly to the bottom of the finger, as it may be interpreted as an intention to dominate the other person. It is recommended that when wearing the ring, the finger should be slightly bent to avoid such implications.
Taboos 7 :
No Fan-Waving: On the day of the engagement, regardless of the weather, attendees should refrain from fanning themselves. The Chinese word for "fan" sounds similar to "scatter," and the action might be associated with dispersing or breaking apart. While it is uncommon for people to carry fans nowadays, if someone has one, they should remember not to use it!
However, due to different customs and traditions in various regions, it is advisable for everyone to consult with their elders for confirmation. ALUXE wishes everyone a smooth and fulfilling engagement!
