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Engagement Process, Six Etiquettes, Taboos – All in One Informative Package!

Engagement Process, Six Etiquettes, Taboos – All in One Informative Package

Engagement is not just a matter for two individuals but involves two families. After the engagement ceremony, both families formally become relatives, signifying a momentous and sacred occasion. The procedures and preparations for engagement, along with the betrothal gifts (Six Etiquettes, Twelve Gifts), can be challenging for many couples. Therefore, today, ALUXE is here to organize this information for you, so you no longer have to fear these intricate customs!

Engagement Ceremony Procedure Introduction

The traditional engagement ceremony typically begins with the groom's family conducting ancestral worship at home. After the ancestral worship, they proceed to the bride's family for various rituals, including presenting the wedding and the tea ceremony. Numerous "nuances" need attention during these rituals. However, with the increasing trend of joint engagement and marriage ceremonies, many hotels now offer simplified engagement ceremony services. This allows couples to use the hotel banquet hall for the ceremony with assistance from hotel staff, making it suitable for those seeking a simple, convenient, and culturally respectful experience.

Traditional Engagement Ceremony Procedure

The traditional engagement ceremony can be broadly divided into six steps, with each step containing numerous details. For a comprehensive guide, you can refer to this article：Follow the engagement process, and don't be nervous during the formal ceremony
Here are some approximate steps for your reference:

step 1‒Departure after Ancestral Worship by the Groom's Family

step 2‒Greeting, Dowry Collection

step 3‒Serving Sweet Tea, Pressing Tea Cup

step 4‒Exchange of Rings

step 5‒Gift Exchange (Bride's Family Responding)

step 6‒Proceed to the Venue for the Banquet

Simplified Engagement Ceremony Procedure

In the traditional engagement ceremony, the groom's family typically goes to the bride's home to conduct the ritual. After the ceremony, they proceed together to the banquet venue. However, if the preparatory steps seem cumbersome, couples can opt to host the ceremony directly at the banquet venue. This not only saves the groom's side from the inconvenience of travel but also reduces the elaborate preparations required at the bride's home.

step 1‒Head to the Venue and Get Ready in the Bridal Suite

step 2‒Dowry Collection

step 3‒Serving Sweet Tea, Pressing Tea Cup

step 4‒Exchange Rings

step 5‒Gift Exchange (Bride's Family Responding)

The difference with the traditional engagement ceremony lies in holding the entire event at the banquet venue, with the assistance of professional hotel staff. There's no need to worry about the details as the hotel personnel will take care of everything. This allows you to focus wholeheartedly on your lifelong commitment

What are the six traditional betrothal gifts?

After understanding the engagement process, let's talk about the betrothal gifts, commonly known as the six gifts and twelve gifts.

Six Gifts:

Western-style wedding cakes or Chinese-style cakes
Chinese-style cakes ( Especially all need to be sweet.)
Gold jewelry and betrothal money (a complete set of gold jewelry, including necklaces, earrings, Wedding Rings, and varying amounts of betrothal money)
Candle and firecracker
Six-colored wedding candies (usually winter melon, longan, rock sugar, kumquat cake, crispy rice, peanuts)
Head-to-toe gifts (giving the bride 6 or 12 items of clothing and accessories, or using red envelopes labeled "head-to-toe gift" as a substitute)

Understanding Engagement Customs: 3 Major Taboos to Be Aware Of

Please note that regardless of where the ceremony takes place, there are still some traditional taboos to be aware of. Remember the following 3 important points:

Choose even numbers for quantities, avoiding the number "4" to ensure good luck in the engagement ceremony.

The bride should distribute the wedding cakes received from the groom to relatives and friends, and she should refrain from eating them herself to preserve the auspiciousness.
Friends and relatives of the groom should leave the banquet before it concludes and avoid saying goodbye to the bride's side to prevent any implication of "remarriage."

If you want to learn more about engagement-related taboos, you can refer to this article:：Engagement Customs and Taboos: Remembering for a Smooth and Auspicious Celebration

How to Pack Engagement Red Envelopes?

Finally, I believe everyone has heard that during the engagement and marriage process, couples usually need to give red envelopes to assisting friends and staff. But how much should the red envelope contain to avoid being impolite? As for the range of the red envelope, it varies from person to person. Generally, you can consider giving amounts like S$80/S$88/S$100, etc. If you have a closer relationship, feel free to increase the amount! However, remember to avoid odd numbers and the numbers 4. I believe on this joyous day, the couple can express gratitude to their friends, family, and staff through red envelopes, transmitting the happiness of your marriage to everyone!

The above is the engagement cheat sheet compiled by Alishi. If you want to learn more about the little tricks of engagement and marriage, feel free to visit the ALUXE official websitefor our insights!

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